Resolution and reconciliation can’t occur if one or both parties are agitated, angry, crying, yelling, accusing, shut down or defensive. REFUSE TO FIGHT IN THE FLESH. It is an invitation from the enemy to be a weapon of destruction, rather than a minister of reconciliation.
Take a time out. When you at the height of a fight, you are in “crisis mode”. It is impossible to think clearly. “I will be happy to talk to you when we both can be calm” Repetition of this statement can be a way to break the emotional escalation and bring the heat down
Pray. Ask the Holy Spirit to help you.
After you have calmed down, go back and work on resolving the issue.
Paul commands us, among other things, to “be thankful” (Colossians 3:15, ESV). Much like anxiety, un-thankfulness doesn’t build relationship, it erodes relationship. Take a moment to think about attitudes and postures that stem from a pattern of ingratitude and entitlement–envy, strife, coveting, fights, and quarreling. Be intentional with your spouse Un-thankfulness can work itself out in a number Continue reading Marriage with Mari: Foster Thankfulness in Your Marriage→
Focus on the Family Podcast May 11, 2021 As you’re getting to know your spouse, it’s easy for things to come up that you weren’t expecting. John talks with Greg and Erin about the struggles they overcame in their marriage. They’ll also provide hope for those who feel stuck in a controlling relationship. Featuring Dr. Continue reading Marriage with Mari: The Dangers of a Controlling Spouse→
Transformation Radio Show- ONLINE DATING Online dating can be a viable way to meet a future marriage partner. Mari and her husband Rob discuss their personal journey through online dating. They share some practical ways to navigate through this experience!
Transformation Radio Show-Take Off the Boxing Gloves! Mari and her husband Rob, share how they have taken off the boxing gloves in marriage and have successful conflict resolution. They share some practical ways and tips that can help every couple.
A recent study suggests couples are happier when they attend church together. 78% of couples attending church together expressed they are very happy or extremely happy with their relationship. Here are 10 reasons for attending church as a couple.
Kindness in a marriage goes a long way, especially when there is a conflict or difficult issue to deal with. It is difficult when there is hurt, anger or bitterness. Kindness is a choice and modeled to us in I Cor. 13. ” Love is kind.”