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In marriage it is important to keep short accounts. Learn to forgive quickly. Don’t keep a long list of wrongs. Nothing will erode your marriage more than building layers and layers of unforgiveness and bitterness. It will affect the relationship with your spouse because every time he does something wrong you will remember everything from the past.

This is especially true in conflict resolution. Nothing is more frustrating when you are having a fight and someone brings up past mistakes. Rather than the stick to the issue now all these other issues are coming up. Nothing ever gets resolved. Frustration grows which can add more layers of pain. Besides the Lord tells us to forgive so we will be forgiven.

“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave us”. Eph. 4:32

In marriage, we have so much power to hurt our spouse

In marriage, you have so much power to hurt your spouse. Because you are closest to them, you know their greatest weaknesses. There will be many times you will come to a crossroad with two options: forgive and keep a short account and move forward or to live in the past.

Forgiveness is not a natural response. You would prefer to hold on, remember and to keep long record of wrongs. You want to be right. You want justify anger, and honestly make them pay for a moment, it will quickly turn to pain. When  unforgiveness festers in your heart.  the more and more it hurts your self,your marriage and your spouse. Eventually, a decision must be made: will you choose to move forward, or sit in this lonely bitterness?

Who is the behind this push not to forgive?

Satan hates you and hates marriages. He loves to remind you of all of your spouse’s mistakes. He wants bitterness to poison your hearts and marriage. He wants to bind you and your marriage.

“For I see that you are poisoned by bitterness and bound by iniquity.” Acts 8:23

Moving forward is the hardest step, but it is also the best decision

Moving forward is the hardest step, but it is also the best decision. You have the choice to practice forgiveness, even when you do not feel like forgiving. No marriage is free from this crossroad. Sometimes it will feel like you are forgiving constantly and start fresh.

Forgiveness is an everyday action

Forgiveness is an everyday action. It is a conscious action you take daily to put the past behind. Ask the Holy Spirit to help. If you are born again, then you have access to Him who can and will help.

Hopefully, you and your spouse can talk through the hurt and understand why it caused pain. If you love someone you don’t want to hurt them intentionally. That is mean and contrary to the Spirit of Christ. If the problem continues get some help. Maybe a mentor couple or counselor can help bring change.

Next time you are at crossroads between keeping a long or short account, and think something is irredeemable, remember this: Jesus has made all things new in Him through His grace. So extend what He has done in you to the one  you love the most. You will be amazed at how healing to the heart and relationship forgiveness and reconciliation are. A new start will give peace and bring joy to your relationship, if only you choose it.