Rob and I used The 10 Best Decisions a Couple Can Make during our pre-marital counseling. Authors Bill and Pam Farrel asked couples to list the best traits of their long-term marriages. Here are a few that were repeated amongst the surveys:
We make room for each other.
We maintain our own unique likes and activities.
We aren’t jealous.
We stick together.
We show respect.
We had a good sense of humor.
We love God together.
We want to make our marriage work.
We spend time together.
We talk things through.
We don’t make major decisions without each other.
We allow for our differences.
We encourage each other.
We both seek God daily, love him, and seek his will first.
We know that we will be faithful to each other until death.
We share everything with each other as long as it is done in love.
We consider the interest of the other before our own (this is a fruit of the Holy Spirit).
We believe that has the other person has my best interest at heart.
We communicate our love daily to each other.
We do not concern ourselves with how much the other person is giving or doing for our relationship.
We look to ourselves to see if we are being the kind of people that God wants us to be and the other person needs us to be.
Paul commands us, among other things, to “be thankful” (Colossians 3:15, ESV). Much like anxiety, un-thankfulness doesn’t build relationship, it erodes relationship. Take a moment to think about attitudes and postures that stem from a pattern of ingratitude and entitlement–envy, strife, coveting, fights, and quarreling. Be intentional with your spouse Un-thankfulness can work itself out in a number Continue reading Marriage with Mari: Foster Thankfulness in Your Marriage→
Focus on the Family Podcast May 11, 2021 As you’re getting to know your spouse, it’s easy for things to come up that you weren’t expecting. John talks with Greg and Erin about the struggles they overcame in their marriage. They’ll also provide hope for those who feel stuck in a controlling relationship. Featuring Dr. Continue reading Marriage with Mari: The Dangers of a Controlling Spouse→
Transformation Radio Show- ONLINE DATING Online dating can be a viable way to meet a future marriage partner. Mari and her husband Rob discuss their personal journey through online dating. They share some practical ways to navigate through this experience!
Transformation Radio Show-Take Off the Boxing Gloves! Mari and her husband Rob, share how they have taken off the boxing gloves in marriage and have successful conflict resolution. They share some practical ways and tips that can help every couple.